Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone! Posted on 03 Jan 15:04 , 0 comments

On one of my morning walks

a few years ago, the sky was overcast, the wind had a chill, and a few drops of rain were warning of the deluge shortly to come.  Approaching me, was a young woman of perhaps 18 to 20 years of age and suddenly she gave me a wonderful smile. It was such a delight and a wonderful change from the usual people who I pass who don’t even look up. As a student of human observation, that smile said several things; it conveyed a message of happiness, friendliness, and a confidence that is rarely seen these days.

It brightened my day, how nice to have received that smile; I hope the one I retsmileurned was as equally well received.  And it made me think that a smile costs nothing to give, but can be worth a fortune. I remember W.C Fields the comedian and actor once said “Start everyday with a smile and get it over with.”  I like to think that was the comedian in him, as I side more with the sentiments of Phyllis Diller the American comedienne who said, “A smile is a curve which sets everything straight.”

That one smile given by a total stranger made a big impact. But sadly it is rare these days to receive an honest smile. A true smile is seen also in the eyes, and yet they are in danger of becoming extinct. These days it seems to be seen by many as a sign of weakness.

Don’t show a weakness, don’t raise your head and give eye contact as you walk past, don’t acknowledge your fellow human beings because then you’re leaving yourself open, exposed and vulnerable ~ you might have to communicate!  And then I considered the fact that perhaps many had forgotten how to smile, or was it true that it may be seen as a sign of weakness?  But I believe the giving of a genuine smile, no matter how difficult life is, or how worried we are can give us strength. It can show the outside world we are approachable - a scowl doesn’t.

And from that outward sign, from that simple smile we may receive it back, we may be offered help, we may begin conversation, we may have opportunity to help others and more - all from that one simple, easy free act of giving.  

But is it true that we can be seen as vulnerable or submissive if we smile and are friendly? I think not. In fact the opposite may be true. If we show we are secure in ourselves, that we have the confidence and self belief and self esteem to openly show our genuine self, then we have learned to be stronger than the many around us who don’t share a smile, but would rather ignore others or wear a frown to protect them from the fear of interacting.

The simple act of smiling can say a lot about us, how we feel and the confidence we have. Those who know me would, I hope, agree I wear a smile more often than a frown, but perhaps the cynic would add, it’s because I have no idea of what’s going on!

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