About Change Posted on 10 Jan 17:49 , 0 comments
Nothing stays the same.
We live with constant change due to each moment being an end and a new beginning. We know change can be sudden or progressive, welcome or forced. Change can be viewed as being an opportunity or a threat.
Many people see change as being out of their control, and of course many changes are. However not all are, and if we are to have happy healthy lives we need to learn to recognise that external change is constantly happening but we can make our own changes too. Those who choose not to change will find life overtakes them, and they will get lost in their own memories of ‘the good old days’.
When we recognise that we can change, and we can introduce positive changes to our lives, environments and circumstances, it is then we see change in a more positive light.
Each New Year’s Eve, more than any other time of the year, we are made increasingly aware of the need for change. The need to change from being a smoker to a non smoker. The need to change destructive relationships, or working patterns. The need to change job, change eating patterns, replace bad habits and so it goes on.
And yet when we stop and think about it,
why focus on change on just one night of the year? The difference is, for many at least, is on that one night of the year, we decide that we have the responsibility, the power, the opportunity and the authority to bring new positive change into our lives. But it is a flawed thought.
Those same feelings of authority, responsibility and power are ours to use at any time in our lives, any moment, minute, day, week, month or year. And yet, for many, unless change is forced upon us, we continue with the established beliefs or through the lack of enthusiasm for change that it’s not worth changing, it’s not worth the hassle, the heartache, the uncertainty. We choose instead to tolerate unfairness, inequality, unhappiness and worse, simply because we fear change.
It’s up to us to view change in the most appropriate way possible. Change can be difficult, there is no known and trusted script to change, and we have to rely on our knowledge, good luck, education, support systems amongst others, when we invoke change.
And yet everything we know is a product of change.
There is nothing we know now, that was not learned, and that in itself is change. Change sometimes can be simple. Sometimes it can be scary, sometimes stressful and many other things too, but it can also be rewarding.
Sometimes not changing can be even scarier. Not changing can mean more heartache, frustration and under achievement. An unwillingness to change can also contribute to life threatening situations for the smoker, the over eater, the couch potato, the illegal drug user, the excessive drinker, the over worked, and others. It is far better to make managed changes to our lives, relationships and habits, than to have nature make the decision for us. For when we don’t make changes it is then that circumstances, fate, nature or whatever we choose to call it, makes us change, and that is really is scary!
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Most of us
have been through difficult times over recent recession years. And of course other life issues and problems don’t stop because we were going through a recession.
Something I often detect in people, whether during the recession or in other areas of life, is a resolve not to be beaten.
I am sure I am right and I hope this attitude builds momentum. Yes there is lots of bad news about, and we hear every day of the difficulties people are facing. Yet many people are seeing this as a time for a fresh start, more people looking at starting their own businesses, or changing their career in some way. I see people in my practice who have decided they need to do more, they speak about taking the initiative, of improving themselves and preparing themselves for the emotional and financial recovery.
To do this they need more skills. And these skills are not simply about learning how not to get nervous or tongue-tied when pitching a presentation, or how to network properly. They are also looking at how to be comfortable in themselves, how to be the person they want to be, letting go of fears and baggage of the past, looking for the many different ways of how they can help themselves to move on and to be better placed to meet the challenges they expect to face as they move on through their life journey.
Most admit that they
would not have thought about making changes had it not been for the recession or change in relationship or work environment. For some, the hard times have been a valuable wake up call. One person said to me recently that they had simply realised that “no-one owed me a living” and he was staggered by this thought.
He is of course right, no-one does owe any of us a living, and I am sure this moment of self realisation for this young man will prove to serve him well for the rest of his life.
Why is it then that so many people seem to be awakening from a haze that has blinded them to the fact that they and only they are responsible for their own lives and what they make of it? I am unsure of the answer but I am pleased to see it. The events of the recession were thrust upon us, no-one asked for it, but it has been a wake up call for many individuals and businesses that they had to change, and be different and make the very most of themselves and their talents, for new opportunities will continue to arise. We all need to be in the best possible place we can be to meet the challenges and the opportunities the next few years will bring.
I am pleased also to see
a spiritual awakening in people, realising that the world cannot go on as it is. We need to work collectively to raise awareness and vibration to help heal ourselves and others. For many this may be airy-fairy mumbo jumbo, so I will leave it there for now, but in another blog I will cover my thoughts more fully.
For those who are looking at, or considering adding to their skill set or making a change in career direction or have been made redundant, remember: the better you feel in yourself, the more likely you are to be better balanced, capable of clearer thinking and better judgment, which will allow you to embrace change more readily.
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I am sure many readers...
will be familiar with the statement ‘it’s good to talk’.
And it is good to talk, it’s also good to listen, since most things that we verbalise are generally founded in what we have heard, had explained to us, or observed. Of course some individuals will invent things and talk about nothing and sometimes set themselves up for an embarrassing fall. However, most individuals do not give the power of speech a second thought. Where would we be without speech? It came late in our development and is given complete responsibility for our having invented civilisation. Without articulate speech we would be simply shouting, howling and grunting like beasts in the jungle
Without the advent of speech, it is doubtful if writing would have been invented; in fact it would have been impossible. Information would not have been passed down the generations. Therefore we would not have all that we have today, other than our bodies of course, had it not been for the development of intelligent speech.
Robert Louis Stevenson wrote, “Talk is by far the most accessible of pleasures. Its costs nothing in money, it is all profit, it completes our education, founds and fosters our friendships, and can be enjoyed at any age and in almost any state of health”.
Talking is good, it is an outward expression of our thoughts and emotions, and from a therapeutic point of view it can help to unload burdens, reduce worry and anxiety. Through talking we can describe our feelings, worries and our warm glows. Many times people have walked out of my office after the initial consultation and on their return have said, ‘I felt so different, just by talking and listening’.
I would like to think it is my skill and knowledge which plays a part, but the truth is, when people come to my office, they are given time to talk, a safe time to be who they are, to express their fears and doubts and to recognise their strengths. And very often they realise that the “insurmountable” problem which they have been carrying about for years, is solvable.
When we talk about our emotions, we have to ‘go inside’ ourselves to extract the information in order to effectively articulate it to the other person. Instead of pushing the problem to the back of our minds hoping to forget it or manage it, it is always best to deal with it. Talking and listening are good for us, if we learn how to do them properly.
Talk is important in every aspect of our lives. Whatever our job or profession, whatever our age or gender, we are dealing with other people. Take a moment to reflect just how many different people you come into contact with in the course of a day or a week how many people you talk to, listen to, and write to. It is the mastery of these skills which determines other individuals’ considerations and evaluations of us.
Although not always easy, it is good to talk; it helps us manage our lives, helps solve our problems, allows us to share our thoughts and fears, and makes us better people. Then we are in a position to pass on our knowledge to others. It’s good to talk – and important to listen!
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When things are difficult and on-going we often use or hear the phrase about the light at the end of the tunnel. The user of the phrase is basically saying that things are difficult, but there remains hope. Hope that the light will be the solution to the individuals’ problem. And yet if we think about that for a while, we often reflect that the tunnel is usually long, straight and dark, and imagining treading through that tunnel is like wading through treacle; that is to say it is not an easy journey.
And yet the light at the end of the tunnel, I feel, is a self-limiting thought, it is self-sabotaging, it gives little if any motivation to keep going on the difficult journey to something better.
At every moment, people around the world are going through difficult times. Those with greater brains than mine tell us to expect even more difficulties in the economy, adverse weather to name but two. But then there are also personal problems which often have an impact on finance, relationships and much more besides. And there is always an emotional cost to bear when working through problems, often there is anxiety and worry, sleepless nights and real and imaginary fears. Once the emotional price starts to be paid, that is when the phrase the light at the end of the tunnel is heard and used more often.
And yet, if we self sabotage ourselves by using that phrase, as I suspect we do, how can we expect to progress to better things, and to a more enjoyable way of life?
One of the ways you could help yourself is this: If you imagine the tunnel as long and straight, with a faint glimmer of light at the end, then in your imagination, screw it up, and throw it away! Why? Because since the time you were born you have never had a long straight journey in your life.
Life is a series of peaks and troughs, lefts and rights, twists and turns and ups and downs. If you remind yourself of this at difficult times on your journey through life, you can realise that you only have to take a few steps forward and then look left or right and that’s where the light may be. Light doesn’t travel around corners (not on earth anyway- in space with immense gravitational influences it may, but not back here on earth) so you could be very close to a solution to your problem, or there maybe someone or something around the next corner that could help you. And if not, you can look forward to taking the next few steps and looking around the next corner, and this way you maintain a feeling of taking part in your own healing or solutions.
That way, you will no longer have the sense of feeling that you just have to put up with whatever is going on and hope for the best. You can be more, and do more than that. And perhaps that’s a message we should all heed in more challenging times.
If something isn’t the way you want it to be, change it to something else, sometimes it’s scary, sometimes it’s exciting but it’s always worth the journey. So when you hear people use that light at the end of the tunnel phrase, simply remind yourself that your journey doesn’t have to be trodden in the same way.
By continuing to grow on our journey through life, we can make our journey more fulfilling, rewarding, enjoyable and fun, regardless of what other people try to tell us.
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New Year 2016 Posted on 31 Dec 17:55 , 0 comments
Another year has passed,
and here in the UK we are still waiting for the cold winter, rather than the torrential downpours experienced here over the past few weeks. The adverts for summer holidays to exotic places have already begun. Traditionally this is the time of year when we think about what we want to achieve in this New Year - our goals, aims, hopes and wishes.
It is also a time when we look back on the previous year, our failures and mistakes, but also our achievements and gains, absent friends, and new friends. And then we close the door on the past and look forward to the future, hopefully more prepared and experienced than we were this time last year.
Our past and future are in our own minds and thoughts. We decide whether we are going to plan the route to our goals or whether we let events take us to wherever they might lead us. One thing I do believe, and something I do see in my work as a clinical hypnotherapist almost every working day, is the drive and strength that is present in the individuals who come to my practice.
Whether it is someone
wanting to lose weight, stop smoking, deal with deep and long standing issues of life’s journey, those needing support and or guidance, understanding or direction., or whatever else is presented, what is present in almost all of them is an internal drive, an instinct to achieve and for them to be better people, to walk away from the past habits or routines, threats or fears and to change for the better. I admire and respect each and every one of them.
Initially it is not always easy to identify the fact that we are in need of a change, that change may be our decision or it may be forced upon us through circumstances, but, when we finally make the decision and find the courage to begin the journey of change, we often find at that exact moment a burden is lifted.
Most of us know
the adage ‘the longest journey starts with a single step’ but fewer realise the fact that, before we begin that long journey, we have usually completed the journey in our mind. We ‘play’ the thoughts through in our mind. The question is whether we imagine making the journey successfully or making the journey in the most difficult, disastrous of fashions.
The difference is - only a thought. For those readers who may be thinking of making some changes but are unsure where to start, I would suggest my confidence and self-esteem CD or download available from www.healthyaudiohypnosis.com
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Whatever you hope
to achieve this year, make a note of it. On the top of a piece of paper, write down your goal. Then fold your paper over, and write what you will have achieved 9, 6, 3, 2 and 1 month from now, folding your paper each time. Then 4, 3, 2 and 1 week from now.
Then unfold your paper and see each step, follow it and adapt it, and this time next year, let me know how successful you have been. I wish you well on whatever journey you plan to make over the course of the next year.
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How do you imagine your 2016 to be? Happy, successful and achieving all you want to achieve? Or simply more of the same? The same struggles, worries, fears and concerns about health, work, money, relationships?
The reality is many people may simply fool themselves that all will be well, and they will go along with the New Year celebrations, make resolutions which they know deep down will fail within the first few weeks. They will join in the festivities but suspect in their heart that it is all just shallow actions, and that the feelings of exuberance will fade as quickly as ice in the rain.
So what to do? The answer is to do something different. If you keep doing the same things, expect the same outcomes. As soon as you do something different then things have to change.
Understand these two things and movement will be made.
Firstly, when we think about the future, we are merely projecting, the past has been and gone, and we have memories and experiences from it, it has happened. The future is yet to come. When we project into it, we have to do more than think about what we have now, and move it into the future, we have to believe we have achieved it. If we want better health, more money, better relationships or whatever is important in our life we have to believe we already have it, that we have achieved those aims, dreams and wishes.
If we do that, then the future successful you, will send back to you the positive feelings and confidence, which will encourage you to achieve what you already feel in the future. It may sound weird to some, but it helps not only to achieve, but it shifts the present mind set – you are doing something different, so the outcomes have to be different.
Secondly, if you know you have something in the present stopping you from achieving then you have to deal with it first. It makes sense that if you have a problem with confidence in the now, and you want to be a successful singer for example, then it makes sense to deal with the confidence issue here and how.
If you want to be more successful in business and social life, and yet you have Irritable Bowel Syndrome and associated anxiety it makes sense to deal with the IBS in the here and now.
Whatever your dreams and wishes for the 2016, I wish you well. Make that first crucial step now. For help with anxiety, IBS, stress, insomnia and more visit www.healthyaudiohypnosis.com