When the balloon didn’t go pop!

Many people, both inside and outside of my practice ask me, when they are in emotional turmoil, or when their internal energies are drained and they simply don’t feel up to facing life’s challenges - How did all this start and why didn’t I see it coming?

For some it was a big event, a life challenging event such as a car accident, illness or operation, but for many the feelings of being emotionally drained is simply an accumulation of various sized occurrences which causes the feelings  they feel in that moment. To explain this I use some simply imagery.

Imagine a balloon blown up to its maximum, and it is tied off with a knot to prevent the air escaping, and all the air inside is our internal energy. That energy is vital to our wellbeing of both mind, body, and emotions.

Now if you are someone who has had a major life changing event such as a car accident or other major issue such as being a victim of serious crime, whatever it may have been, for the benefit of our imaginary balloon this is similar to someone coming along and popping your energy balloon with a big pin. In a brief moment it has gone, and you feel the effects immediately but at least you can see and understand what has happened, and that goes someway to helping you understand why your emotional energies are drained.

For many readers however it is a much different story.

In your case it may have been an accumulation of many smaller (yet just as important) things, happening over a period of many months or even years which has affected you.

And you may ask why you didn’t notice it, and the answer is because it happened so slowly and gradually that you didn’t have much chance to notice it. You might have been aware that things were happening and you brushed them to one side reminding yourself if ‘was nothing’ and carrying on.  But all those nothings add up, they matter, and the price for ignoring will be paid.

In this situation, imagine the same balloon and the same pin, but this time imagine the balloon being stabbed just below the knot in, in the slightly flabby bit, and you can stab that balloon many, many, times and the balloon won’t go off with a bang, as it did in the first example.  It will gradually and steadily deflate until it’s too late and before you know it the energy has gone, you feel drained and low, and have no idea how to get the energy back again. I will explain to you how can make this right again, and you can take part in your own healing and recovery.

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